When is the right time to call a career consultant?

When is the right time to call a career consultant?

1. BEFORE you think you need to. Biggest mistake people make is waiting. They think that they're doing fine in the decision making process. Remaining in a problematic job situation is evidence enough that you are too good at ignoring what bothers you. You will not be an adequate judge of when you need help with this.

Listen to the people who care. When they tell you to do something about the problem, you've got to listen because you can't be an accurate reviewer of your own situation.

2. The first time you consider it. OK, let's be honest. You won't do anything the first time you think about it. You're a lawyer. You need time to review, consider, research, research more, ponder, fret, analyze, research more, and worry more. Do something when you're midway through the first round of consideration. Don't drag out the process of making a decision about hiring someone to help you make a decision what to do. Better you should spend your energy figuring out what you want to do.

3. When you realize that you don't have the answers, call. Seriously, this is a given. You don't have the answers. Helping people make career choices isn't your gift in life. If it was, you'd be doing my job instead of reading about it. Even if you had this drive to help people, you still wouldn't be able to do by yourself. No one can.

Should people read a book or talk to their friend who works next door to a lawyer then decide they can write their own wills? No, because they don't know how to consider all aspects. It's the same with your career. My job is to listen to the things you're saying that you don't know you think, believe, or feel. My job is to consider the aspects that you don't even realize play in.

4. If you are part of the layoff scene, call me now. (OK, possibly not right now, because the phone would wake my family. But you can email me now.)

Again, people wait too long. They think their next position will fall into place. They think their choices will fall into place. They think that a good chat with a friend or colleague or family member will miraculously answer the half-asked questions. Your family can't see you objectively. Your colleagues bring their own baggage to the conversation. Your friends have their own agendas. You need someone who can be objective.

You need an objective look quickly, because if you've been laid off the clock is ticking. You probably know how many months of living expenses you have available.

What you don't realize is that you have a limited amount of available psychological resources. The clock is ticking on how you deal with this transition. As you wait your psychological resources dwindle making the decision-making process that much harder.

5. When you know you want to be happier and just don't know how to get there. There are far too many unhappy lawyers. It doesn't have to be that way. You may want to escape the law. You may feel there is no escape. Either way, you can be happier, far happier than you ever considered. Just do something toward that end.

6. When you're willing to take a chance to find a happier future. Enough said.

"If only"

If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are. ~ Charles de Montesquieu

People aren’t as happy as you think they are. We presume that life will be better “if only.” “If only” never arrives. Happiness is not created when some magical thing happens. Happiness is created in this moment.

There are certainly times when happiness eludes, when the stresses of the day supersede the little joys. Those are the times when you have to be more diligent about looking for what’s right. The times when most of your life and work is a stress are the times you must take extra care to enjoy the small things.

Finding a split second of peace and happiness in the small things – the birds singing when you wake up, the sunset, the rain gently falling, the smile from a stranger, the fact that you finished this piece of paperwork 6 minutes earlier than you anticipated – is critical. Sometimes the split second of joy is all you get.